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Breathwork for anxious attachment anxiety

He's read it.
He hasn't replied.
Here's what to do right now.

7 guided breathwork practices for the anxiety waves that hit in close relationships — after a message, a silence, a spiral, or the urge to reach out.

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What you get

Andrum SOS Practices are 7 guided breathwork audios for the moments when anxious attachment takes over — after a message, a silence, a spiral, jealousy, shame, freeze, anger, or the urge to reach out.

7 guided audio practices 5–10 minutes each Choose by emotional state Instant access after purchase
Right now

Is this you right now?

Sent it. No reply. Refreshing anyway.
He's active. Still nothing.
One fight. Now: silence.
The text is written. Pause before you send it.
Jealousy with no off switch.
Body in panic. Mind overwhelmed.
2am. Same thought. Again.
Froze. Can't feel anything.
Why am I like this?

Nothing to figure out.
Just press play.

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Practice 1 — After a Triggering Message

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A warm voice. Unhurried. Like someone who's been exactly where you are right now. That's what guides you through every practice.

7 minutes

Here's what you
may notice.

Something in your breathing may start to slow. A place in your chest — tight until now — might begin to loosen. You may notice your jaw unclenching. You didn't realise it was clenched.

The thought spiral may pause. Not because anything is solved. Because your body has somewhere else to go. You may find just enough space not to act from panic.

This won't change what's happening between you. It will get you through the next 10 minutes steady — with your head clear enough to choose what you do next.
The science

Why breathing actually works
when nothing else does.

When anxiety hits this hard, the part of you that reasons and problem-solves goes quiet. That's not weakness. That's biology. The way back isn't through your thoughts. It's through your body. And breath is the most direct path — a longer exhale than inhale sends a signal your body already knows how to receive: the danger is passing. You can come down now.

"Breathing doesn't work for me."

That makes sense. Most breathing advice isn't built for this — it's built for mild stress, not for the moments when your whole system has already decided something is very wrong. These practices are different: a voice guides you through every second so you never have to figure anything out. You just follow. The voice holds the rhythm with you.

Seven practices

Seven moments.
One for tonight.

Practice 01
After a Triggering Message or Conversation

Your phone just delivered a gut-punch. Chest tight, hands shaking, every thought at once. A double inhale followed by a long exhale interrupts the panic cycle and slows your heart rate before your fingers do something you'll regret.

Practice 02
When Thoughts Won't Stop Looping

You've replayed the conversation 40 times. It's 2am and your brain won't stop. Box breathing interrupts the loop — not by solving it, but by giving your brain a rhythm to follow instead.

Practice 03
The 'Why Am I Like This' Spiral

You've shut down. The shame is louder than the anxiety. You feel small and wrong and not enough. A slow, rhythmic breath brings you back into your body and out of collapse — slowly, without forcing anything.

Practice 04
When You Can See He's Online

He liked another girl's posts. He hasn't replied to yours. The jealousy is physical — stomach, throat, jaw. An extended exhale pattern brings the threat response down without requiring you to stop feeling what you're feeling.

Practice 05
When You're About to Send Something

Choose this one when your body can't be still — when there's adrenaline in your limbs and sitting down feels impossible. You walk while you breathe. The adrenaline burns off as you move. The urge passes. You come back clear.

Practice 06
When You've Gone Numb

You're not panicking. You're frozen. Staring. Disconnected. You can't cry and you can't move. A three-part gentle breath slowly brings you back online — no forcing, no intensity, just a quiet return.

Practice 07
When Anger Is Rising

Choose this when the anger is already at the surface. It starts with a forceful exhale to give the anger somewhere to go — a physical release of pressure — then downshifts so you can speak from strength, not explosion.

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Different nights

Freeze and panic
aren't the same state.

Your body needs a different signal for each one. That's why one practice isn't enough.

Panic after a messageSharp, fast interrupt to stop the spiral
Racing thoughts / loopRhythm to anchor the mind
Shame / collapseSlow, rhythmic breath, gentle activation
Jealousy / threatExtended exhale, gradual release
Urge to text / adrenalineMovement + breath to burn the charge
Freeze / numbnessSlow 3-part breath, zero force
AngerRelease valve first, then downshift
Andrum SOS Practices
$19
  • 7 guided breathwork audios
  • 5–10 minutes each
  • State-based guide
  • Instant access after purchase
  • Use anytime, from your phone

A practical support tool you can return to whenever the anxiety wave hits.

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What's inside

Here's what happens
when you press the button.

You press the button. One email arrives. One link. You see 7 practices, each named for the state you're in right now. You press play. A calm voice starts — warm, unhurried, like someone who's been exactly where you are. You follow it. Nothing else is required.

7
7 guided breathwork practices (5–10 min each) Each labeled by state — you know exactly which one to press
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Lifetime access — yours to keep Not a subscription. You buy it once. It's there every time a hard time comes — and it will.
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No app to download No playlist to navigate. One list, one button.
Who made this

Who made this and why.

We've been exactly where you are. Not as practitioners observing from the outside — as the person refreshing the screen at midnight. As the one who went numb mid-conversation and couldn't explain why. As the one who stayed in something that was hurting her because leaving felt like losing herself.

Between the three of us, we've lived anxious attachment through relationships that ranged from painful to genuinely unsafe. We know what it's like when your body won't come down. When the spiral has already started and there's nothing to hold onto.

That's why we built this. Not from a framework. From the floor.

These practices are what we needed and couldn't find — something that meets you in the actual moment, with a voice that guides you through it step by step. No figuring out. No getting it wrong. Just follow.

Team photo
Ksu certified breathwork facilitator
Bec certified breathwork facilitator
Masha co-founder
Real women

What happened
when they pressed play.

"I almost threw my phone across the room. I put on practice one instead. By like minute four my hands actually stopped shaking. He still hadn't replied. I still didn't know anything. But I could breathe without it hurting. That's not nothing."

Jess, 29

"I was in the parking lot of a CVS at 11pm with my car running, drafting a message I'd been rewriting for an hour. I did the 'urge to text' practice sitting there. I didn't send it. I went home. Still don't know if that was the right call but at least it was MY call and not my panic's."

Maya, 31

"After practice 3 my jaw unclenched and I realized I'd been clenching it for days. I didn't even know. It's been doing that this whole time."

Rachel, 27

"The intro to practice two mentions 'replaying it like maybe you'll find a different ending.' I actually started crying. Not because I was sad but because someone named the exact thing I was doing and didn't make me feel insane for it."

Tara, 33

"I did the first practice free and genuinely felt something shift so I bought the full pack like three minutes later. I need the jealousy one. I need the freeze one. There have been nights I can't even cry, I just go blank. I need something for that too."

Lauren, 29

"$19 for actually different tools is insane. I've spent more than that on one hour of talking about my feelings."

Mia, 35
FAQ

Before you buy.

Is this therapy?

No. Andrum is not a substitute for therapy or mental health care. It is a body-based support tool for emotional regulation in the moment.

How long are the practices?

Each practice is 5–10 minutes.

Do I need experience with breathwork?

No. The practices are guided step by step.

When should I use them?

Use them when you feel activated, spiralling, frozen, jealous, ashamed, angry, or pulled to reach out from panic.

What happens after I buy?

You receive instant access to the full SOS Practices collection and the guide.

You're still here.
Which means part of you
already knows.

You've read what it does. You've read what other women felt.
The only thing left is to find out what happens in your body.

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If you try it and feel nothing, you can get your money back. No questions.
One purchase. Lifetime access. Yours at 2am, every time.